Domestic Helper's Distress Over Mood Swings

SINGAPORE: A domestic helper recently took to social media, revealing her distress over being compelled to continue working for an employer whose mood swings have pushed her mental health to its limits.

Sharing her story anonymously in the Facebook group ‘MDW in Singapore’ on November 22, the helper expressed feeling overwhelmed and deeply stressed in her work environment. She emphasized her commitment, stating, "I’ve been doing my best at my job," yet the pressure from her employer's unpredictable behavior has become unbearable. "I cannot take the feeling of my stress anymore and can’t eat or sleep well because of this," she lamented.

Attempts to Resign Dismissed

Despite her attempts to discuss her desire to resign, her employer reportedly dismissed her pleas, insisting she remain in her position. This prompted the helper to challenge the notion that mental health issues are not a valid reason for terminating her employment, questioning whether her employer truly understood her struggles or chose to ignore them.

Support from the Community

Her post resonated with many netizens, who quickly rallied to her side, confirming that no employer has the right to force a helper to work under detrimental conditions. Comments flooded in, advocating for her right to prioritize her well-being, urging her to approach her employer for another discussion about her mental health, and pointing out that a toxic environment is a legitimate reason to seek resignation.

One supportive comment underscored, "Employers have no right to hold a helper when there is no peace. If the helper is stressed and there is no understanding, why should she stay?" Additional commenters suggested she reach out to governmental bodies like the Ministry of Manpower (MOM) or various worker advocacy groups for legal guidance and protection of her rights.

Understanding Legal Rights

They noted, "Know your rights. An employer cannot hold back a helper if she doesn’t wish to work for them anymore." It was also highlighted that domestic helpers in Singapore, like all employees, have the right to resign given appropriate notice or payment in lieu.

Government's Role

According to MOM, both domestic workers and employers must navigate employment disputes calmly. If these discussions fail, mediation through employment agencies or organizations such as the Centre for Domestic Employees can provide necessary support.

Broader Context

In a broader context, the issue of mental health among domestic workers has drawn increasing attention, with advocates urging for stronger protections and resources to ensure their well-being in the workplace—a vital consideration in a city where many expatriates rely heavily on domestic help.

Conclusion

This incident serves as a pivotal reminder of the challenges many domestic helpers face and the importance of understanding, mutual respect, and support between employers and helpers. As more helpers share their experiences, the call for improved working conditions and mental health awareness continues to resonate.