SINGAPORE: A growing number of citizens are voicing their concerns over Singapore's declining birth rates, pointing not just to financial constraints, but to broader lifestyle issues that are making young couples hesitant to start families.

In a recent anonymous post on the NUSWhispers Facebook page, one Singaporean articulated a perspective that resonates with many: "It’s not just about the money; it’s the lifestyle in SG that’s making young couples think twice before having kids." The post highlights that while a modest income of around $4,000 can support a family, the sacrifices required to raise children comfortably are significant.

Couples face intense logistical challenges, especially when both parents are employed. Without extended family support or domestic helpers, managing childcare alongside demanding careers can feel insurmountable. This situation often leads to a grueling daily routine: hurried morning drop-offs at childcare, long work hours, and the exhaustion of nighttime parenting duties.

The author also brings attention to the impact on children, who may spend the majority of their waking hours away from their parents. "Bringing them into the world only to see them for a couple of hours each weekday seems wrong," he lamented, stressing that children should have more quality time with their families during their formative years.

While it’s acknowledged that financial stability makes parenting easier—allowing for options like domestic help or private schooling—most young parents do not have such luxuries. The ever-growing wait times for Build-To-Order (BTO) flats, often taking over four years, further complicate things, prompting many couples to delay childbirth until they are more financially secure.

In an open invitation for discussion, the poster questioned, “Well, please try to convince me that I should have kids; I really need some reasons to,” reflecting a sentiment shared by many who feel unprepared for the parenting journey. “Throughout human history, having kids has never been an economic decision,” he added, signifying a deeper societal concern than mere numbers.

In response, a vibrant exchange ensued within the comments, with opinions ranging widely. A father of four expressed, “If you are not ready, then don’t. If you are ready, then do,” implying that the decision is ultimately personal and not strictly tied to financial capability. Another commenter emphasized personal choice, stating, "Ultimately, it’s all about personal choice. Others have no right to criticize their decision."

Singapore's fertility rate, which has recently fallen below 1.0, evokes alarm among demographers and policymakers alike. Despite government initiatives—including financial incentives like the Baby Bonus Cash, amounting to S$13,000, and extended paternity leave—many locals remain ambivalent or resistant to parenthood.

Underlying this dilemma are recurrent themes such as the high cost of living, job instability, and a perceived lack of parental instinct among the younger generation. As Singapore grapples with these intertwined challenges, it raises a poignant question—what does it truly mean to be ready for parenthood in today’s fast-paced urban environment?

In a world where some view parenting as a luxury, the conversation around family planning is set to continue, inviting deeper reflection on societal values and the notion of family.